Flowers for the Living

by Notorious Spinks on 07.20.2012

This morning was a real shocker for me.  The last I checked, 12 people were reported dead as a result of the mass shooting in the Colorado movie theater.  71 were reported as injured.  Tragic… 

As I transitioned into my daily routine of breathing, praying, breathing, meditating, breathing and praying, I thanked God for my life.  I thanked him for protecting me from dangers seen and unseen.  I thanked him for keeping me, even when I didn’t know I needed to be kept.  I thanked him for protecting my friends, family and relatives.  I just thanked him…

After getting my head in the game for the day, I glanced down at my phone and saw my screen saver.  It’s one of my favorite pictures.  It says so much with no intent.


It’s my two-year-old great-niece, Kay, taking flowers from my mom’s grave.  Every time she visits she says, “G.G.” and takes a flower.  I guess that’s her way of remembering.

After I glanced down at the picture, I embraced the importance of giving people their flowers while they are living.  Some parent, husband, wife … was waiting for their loved one to return from the movies last night and they didn’t.. they won’t… 

I then wondered what that last conversation was like … if there was a conversation…

Last week I was blessed to celebrate another birthday in the land of the living.  It was my second birthday without my mom here and it’s still different…  But today, although I’m sad that my mom is gone, I’m more happy in knowing that I gave her flowers while she was living.

Jessica Redfield, was one of the innocent moviegoers killed last night.  Her bio on her blog profile reads:

I specialize in sports media and snark. Not your typical sarcastic feisty redhead attempting to perfect the trifecta of class, sass, and crass. Yankee born, Texas raised, Colorado blooming. Follow me on twitter:

 Unfortunately she is no longer able to blossom due to senseless crime… 

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Maryann January 17, 2013 at 12:29 pm

I like the idea of sending flowers now.


Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell August 1, 2012 at 9:27 am

I went back and read her entire story of how she nearly missed being killed in Texas earlier. Such a tragedy that she ended up in that Colorado incident.


Jennifer H July 30, 2012 at 2:10 pm

beautiful picture!


Donna July 24, 2012 at 4:05 pm

I’m just heart-broken over this. And you are so right… we need to give flowers to the living, and hugs, and I love you’s as much as possible. Because you never know….


Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell July 24, 2012 at 10:48 am

It’s impossible to understand how someone could do anything like that.


Courtney July 24, 2012 at 4:14 am

I still can’t believe what could possibly drive someone to do such a thing. I really don’t think I want to know either.


Zipporah Sandler July 23, 2012 at 6:55 pm

This was such a senseless crime.


A Time Out for Mommy- Elaina July 23, 2012 at 6:34 pm

I still can’ t believe what happened… I feel as if no matter where you are or what you do you aren’t safe…


Crystal @ Simply Being Mommy July 23, 2012 at 4:20 pm

It’s such a tragic event. I don’t understand how people can be so cruel.


Penelope (NYC Blogger) July 23, 2012 at 3:41 pm

That is so sad…it’s so haunting to read the last words, tweets, etc of the victims.


Jenn July 23, 2012 at 3:28 pm

So sad. Thanks for the reminder to demonstrate our love before it’s too late!


Amanda July 23, 2012 at 2:40 pm

It was so shocking! I couldn’t believe it…or at least I was sad that I COULD believe it, given that I work in the News industry. Definitely made me hold my husband and daughter closer.


Ty @ Mama of 3 Munchkins July 22, 2012 at 9:41 pm

Very sad!


Kelly @ Texas Type A Mom July 22, 2012 at 9:12 pm

That photo is a great reminder of the importance of spending time with people while they’re living and giving them flowers at that time to – when it matters the most.


Katie July 22, 2012 at 6:26 pm

Jessica was friends with a friend of my husband. My husband’s friend is beside himself because he is the reason she moved to Colorado to pursue her sports career.

It is a great reminder to always tell those you love how you feel, and live each day like it is your last. It’s been a tough few days for our community.


Notorious Spinks July 23, 2012 at 1:44 am

I’m sorry to hear that. I know he has to be taking that hard but I’m sure she wouldn’t want him to.


Kelly July 22, 2012 at 4:16 pm

My husband and I are still trying to digest the tragedy in Colorado. However, it’s hard to remember to celebrate living and I hope that you got yourself some flowers today. Btw – Thanks for the tip!!


Colleen July 22, 2012 at 2:57 pm

This is a great reminder (the flowers). You never know when something is going to happen out of your control. This is what I tell my children every day when they leave the house.


Tammy July 22, 2012 at 11:48 am

I was shocked when I heard what happened.


Tricia Nightowlmama July 22, 2012 at 1:13 am

so very sad. Such a tragedy and such a great loss prayers to the family


Maggie July 21, 2012 at 9:43 pm

My heart breaks…


Theresa July 21, 2012 at 9:18 pm

So sad.


Billie July 21, 2012 at 2:27 pm

So incredibly sad.


Monique (@MamaRvThereYet) July 21, 2012 at 10:08 am

Thanks for sharing. I remember when your mom passed last year. I felt so bad for you. It’s good to know that you gave her flowers when she could enjoy them – and that even her great grandkids got to know her.

It sickens and saddens me when I see or read about senseless acts like this young man committed. Horrifying, really.


Jennifer July 21, 2012 at 9:25 am

This is just so so sad.


April Decheine July 21, 2012 at 8:07 am

Oh this makes me so sad, so sad to see her tweets. Another horrible happening for this world.


debra July 20, 2012 at 10:22 pm

So tragic and completely senseless!


Stefani July 20, 2012 at 10:15 pm

I woke up and turned on the new like usual and heard about the tragedy today too.


Kathleen July 20, 2012 at 10:09 pm

I really can’t begin to make sense of this tragedy, but you are so right about being sure to give people their flowers and love while they are living. Life is much shorter than we think!


Stefanie July 20, 2012 at 8:54 pm

So tragic.


Anne - Mommy Has to Work July 23, 2012 at 10:01 pm

It’s so hard to think people do this to other people…


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